“How many people do you know who are unaffected by praise or blame? – If you find me charming, it means that right now you are in a good mood, nothing more. It also means that I fit your shopping list. – If you ever let yourself feel good when people tell you that you’re O.K., then you are preparing yourself to feel bad when they tell you you’re not good. As long as you live to fill other people’s expectations, you’d better watch… whether you live up to every damned expectation of theirs. You’re not O.K. and you’re not not O.K., you’re you.”