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“The one who knows, does not say; the one who says, does not know.”

16 Nov

Anthony de Mello in “Awareness”

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“Perfect love casts out fear. Where there is love there are no demands, no expectations, no dependency. I do not demand that you make me happy; my happiness does not lie in you. If you were to leave me, I will not feel sorry for myself; I enjoy your company immensely, but I do not cling. I enjoy it on a nonclinging basis. What I really enjoy is not you; it’s something that’s greater than both you and me. It’s something that I discovered, a kind of symphony, a kind of orchestra that plays one melody in your presence, but when you depart, the orchestra doesn’t stop. When I meet someone else, it plays another melody, which is also very delightul. And when I am alone, it continues to play. There’s a great repertoire and it never ceases to play. That’s what awakening is all about.”

11 Nov

Anthony de Mello in “Awareness”

“What is the most important thing of all? It’s called self-observation. – No one can show you a technique. The moment you pick up a technique, you’re programmed again. – What’s [self-observation]? It means to watch everything in you and around you as far as possible and to watch it as if it were happening to someone else. – It means you do not personalize what is happening to you. It means you look at things as if you have no connection to them whatsoever.”

11 Nov

– Anthony de Mello in “Awareness” on Self-observation, P.35.

More on the process and understanding of self-observation, “I” vs “Me” and suffering below.

on P.46 “Be aware of your presence in this room. Say to yourself, “I am in this room.” It’s as if you were outside of yourself looking at yourself. Notice a slightly different feeling than if you were looking at things in the room. Later we’ll ask, “who is this person doing the looking?” I am looking at me. What’s an “I”? What’s “me”? … If you find yourself condemning yourself or approving yourself, don’t stop the condemnation and don’t stop the judgement or approval, just watch it. I’m condemning me; I’m disapproving of me; I’m approving of me. Just look at it, period. Don’t try to change it… Just observe what is going on.”

on P. 47 “Notice you have “I” observing “me.” This is an interesting phenomenon that has never ceased to cause wonder to philosophers, mystics, scientists, psychologists, that the “I” can observe “me”… The great mystics of the East are really referring to that “I”, not to the “me”. As a matter of fact, some of these mystics tell us that we begin first with things, with an awareness of things; then we move on to an awareness of thoughts (that’s the me); and finally we get to an awareness of the thinker. Things, thoughts, thinker. What we’re really searching for is the thinker. Can the thinker know himself? Can I know what “I” is? Some of these mystics reply, “Can the knife cut itself? Can the tooth bite itself?…Can the “I” know itself?”

P.47 “Am I my thoughts, the thoughts that I am thinking? No. Thoughts come and go; I am not my thoughts. Am I my body? They tell us that millions of cells in our body are change or are renewed every minute, so that by the end of seven years we don’t have a single loving cell in our body that was there seven years before. Cells come and go. Cells arise and die. But “I” seems to persist. So am “I” my body? Evidently not!”

P.48 “Is my name an essential part of me, of the “I”? Is my religion an essential part of the “I”?

P.49 – 50 “What constantly changes is “me”. Does “I” ever change? Does the observer ever change?… So when you step out of yourself and observe “me”, you no longer identify with “me”. Suffering exists in “me,” so when you identify “I” with “me,” suffering begins.”

P. 51 “Anytime you have a negative feeling towards anyone, you’re living in an illusion. There’s something seriously wrong with you. You are not seeing reality. Something inside of you has to change… The one who has to change is you.”

“Anytime you have a negative feeling toward anyone, you’re living in an illusion. There’s something seriously wrong with you. – Something has to change. – The world is alright. The one who has to change is you.”

11 Nov

Anthony de Mello in “Awareness”

“How many people do you know who are unaffected by praise or blame? – If you find me charming, it means that right now you are in a good mood, nothing more. It also means that I fit your shopping list. – If you ever let yourself feel good when people tell you that you’re O.K., then you are preparing yourself to feel bad when they tell you you’re not good. As long as you live to fill other people’s expectations, you’d better watch… whether you live up to every damned expectation of theirs. You’re not O.K. and you’re not not O.K., you’re you.”

11 Nov

Anthony de Mello in “Awareness”

“What you judge you cannot understand.”

1 Nov

– Anthony de Mello in “Awareness”

“If you see through yourself, you will see through everyone. Then you will love them. Otherwise you spend the whole time grappling with your wrong notions of them, with your illusions that are constantly crashing against reality.”

1 Nov

– Anthony de Mello in “Awareness”