Tag Archives: Effort

“If I were aware of what the snake was, I wouldn’t brush it off my arm; it would get brushed off through me. – That’s the change I am talking about. You don’t change yourself; it’s not me changing me. Change takes place through you, in you. – You see change take place in you, through you, in your awareness, it happens. You don’t do it.”

16 Nov

Anthony de Mello in “Awareness”

“What does self change entail? – First, insight. Not effort, not cultivating habits, not having an ideal. There’s another great task, understanding.”

16 Nov

Anthony de Mello in “Awareness”

“The more you resist something, the greater power you give to it. – You always empower the demons you fight. – But if you flow with the enemy, you overcome the enemy. How does one cope with evil? Not by fighting it, but by understanding it. In understanding, it disappears.”

16 Nov

Anthony de Mello in “Awareness”

“Get rid of your fear of failure, your tensions about succeeding, you will be yourself. Relaxed. You wouldn’t be driving with your brakes on. That’s what would happen.”

11 Nov

Anthony de Mello in “Awareness”

More in a fable on P.58 “There’s a lovely saying of Tranxu, a great Chinese sage, that I took the trouble to learn by heart. It goes: ‘When the archer shoots for no particular prize, he has all his skills; when he shoots to win a brass buckle, he is already nervous; when he shoots for a gold prize, he goes blind, sees two targets and is out of his mind. His skill has not changed, but the prize divides him. He cares! He things more of winning than of shooting, and the need to win drains him of power.”

“Perfect love casts out fear. Where there is love there are no demands, no expectations, no dependency. I do not demand that you make me happy; my happiness does not lie in you. If you were to leave me, I will not feel sorry for myself; I enjoy your company immensely, but I do not cling. I enjoy it on a nonclinging basis. What I really enjoy is not you; it’s something that’s greater than both you and me. It’s something that I discovered, a kind of symphony, a kind of orchestra that plays one melody in your presence, but when you depart, the orchestra doesn’t stop. When I meet someone else, it plays another melody, which is also very delightul. And when I am alone, it continues to play. There’s a great repertoire and it never ceases to play. That’s what awakening is all about.”

11 Nov

Anthony de Mello in “Awareness”

“When I say disciplined, I’m not talking about effort. – Look at the river as it moves to the sea. It creates its own banks that contain it. When there’s something within you that moves in the right direction, it creates its own discipline.”

11 Nov

Anthony de Mello in “Awareness”

“Do you want to change the world? How about beginning with yourself?”

2 Nov

– Anthony de Mello in “Awareness”