Tag Archives: Reality

“The world, power, prestige, winning, success, honor, etc., are nonexistent things. You gain the world but you lose your soul. – There’s nothing there.”

16 Nov

Anthony de Mello in “Awareness”

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“Ideas actually fragment the vision, intuition or experience of reality as a whole. – Words cannot give you reality. They only point, they only indicate. You use them as pointers to get to reality. But once you get there, your concepts are useless.”

16 Nov

Anthony de Mello in “Awareness”

“Concepts are always frozen. Reality flows.”

16 Nov

Anthony de Mello in “Awareness”

“You become be contact with reality. That’s what brings happiness, a moment-by-moment contact with reality.”

16 Nov

Anthony de Mello in “Awareness”

“Life is a mystery, which means your thinking mind cannot make sense out of it. For that you’ve got to wake up and then you’ll suddenly realize that reality is not problematic, you are the problem.”

16 Nov

Anthony de Mello in “Awareness”

“Four steps to wisdom. The first thing you need to do is get in touch with negative feelings that you’re not even arware of. – The second step is to understand that the feeling is in you, not in reality. – The third step: Never identify with that feeling. It has nothing to do with the “I”. – The fourth step: How do you change things? How do you change yourselves?”

16 Nov

Anthony de Mello in “Awareness”

On expanding the third step; never identify with negative feelings:

  • P. 80 “If you want to say depression is in there, that’s fine; if you want to say gloominess is in there, that’s fine.  But not: I am gloomy.”
  • P. 80 “Your depression and your thrills have nothing to do with your happiness.  Those are the swings of the pendulum.”
  • P. 81 “You don’t even need to be in love.  Who told you you do? What you need is to be free.  What you need is to love.  That’s it; that’s your nature.  But what you’re really telling me is that you want to be desired.  You want to be applauded, to be attractive, to have all the little monkeys running after you. You’re wasting your life.  Wake up! You don’t need this.  You can be blissfully happy without it.”

The 4 Steps to Wisdom repeated again on P. 89: “Put this program into action, a thousand times:

  • (a) identify the negative feelings in you;
  • (b) understand that they are in you, not in the world, not in external reality;
  • (c) do not see them as an essential part of “I”; these things come and go;
  • (d) understand that when you change, everything changes.

“When your illusions drop, you’re in touch with reality at last, and believe me, you will never again be lonely. – Lonliness is cured by contact with reality.”

11 Nov

Anthony de Mello in “Awareness”