Tag Archives: Happiness

“Happiness is a state of nonillusion, of dropping the illusion.”

16 Nov

Anthony de Mello in “Awareness”

“You become be contact with reality. That’s what brings happiness, a moment-by-moment contact with reality.”

16 Nov

Anthony de Mello in “Awareness”

“Do you want to enjoy a symphony? Don’t hold on to a few bars of the music. Don’t hold on to a couple of notes. Let them pass, let them flow. The whole enjoyment of a symphony lies in your readiness to allow the notes to pass.”

16 Nov

Anthony de Mello in “Awareness”

“Your depressions and your thrills have nothing to do with happiness. Those are the swings of the pendulum.”

16 Nov

Anthony de Mello in “Awareness”

P. 111 “Understand another illusion, too, that happiness is not the same as excitement, it’s not the same as thrills”

“Four steps to wisdom. The first thing you need to do is get in touch with negative feelings that you’re not even arware of. – The second step is to understand that the feeling is in you, not in reality. – The third step: Never identify with that feeling. It has nothing to do with the “I”. – The fourth step: How do you change things? How do you change yourselves?”

16 Nov

Anthony de Mello in “Awareness”

On expanding the third step; never identify with negative feelings:

  • P. 80 “If you want to say depression is in there, that’s fine; if you want to say gloominess is in there, that’s fine.  But not: I am gloomy.”
  • P. 80 “Your depression and your thrills have nothing to do with your happiness.  Those are the swings of the pendulum.”
  • P. 81 “You don’t even need to be in love.  Who told you you do? What you need is to be free.  What you need is to love.  That’s it; that’s your nature.  But what you’re really telling me is that you want to be desired.  You want to be applauded, to be attractive, to have all the little monkeys running after you. You’re wasting your life.  Wake up! You don’t need this.  You can be blissfully happy without it.”

The 4 Steps to Wisdom repeated again on P. 89: “Put this program into action, a thousand times:

  • (a) identify the negative feelings in you;
  • (b) understand that they are in you, not in the world, not in external reality;
  • (c) do not see them as an essential part of “I”; these things come and go;
  • (d) understand that when you change, everything changes.

“There’s only one reason why you’re not experiening bliss at this present moment, and it’s because you’re thinking or focusing on what you don’t have. – Right now you have everything you need to be in bliss.”

16 Nov

Anthony de Mello in “Awareness”

“Perfect love casts out fear. Where there is love there are no demands, no expectations, no dependency. I do not demand that you make me happy; my happiness does not lie in you. If you were to leave me, I will not feel sorry for myself; I enjoy your company immensely, but I do not cling. I enjoy it on a nonclinging basis. What I really enjoy is not you; it’s something that’s greater than both you and me. It’s something that I discovered, a kind of symphony, a kind of orchestra that plays one melody in your presence, but when you depart, the orchestra doesn’t stop. When I meet someone else, it plays another melody, which is also very delightul. And when I am alone, it continues to play. There’s a great repertoire and it never ceases to play. That’s what awakening is all about.”

11 Nov

Anthony de Mello in “Awareness”