Tag Archives: Expectations

“Perfect love casts out fear. Where there is love there are no demands, no expectations, no dependency. I do not demand that you make me happy; my happiness does not lie in you. If you were to leave me, I will not feel sorry for myself; I enjoy your company immensely, but I do not cling. I enjoy it on a nonclinging basis. What I really enjoy is not you; it’s something that’s greater than both you and me. It’s something that I discovered, a kind of symphony, a kind of orchestra that plays one melody in your presence, but when you depart, the orchestra doesn’t stop. When I meet someone else, it plays another melody, which is also very delightul. And when I am alone, it continues to play. There’s a great repertoire and it never ceases to play. That’s what awakening is all about.”

11 Nov

Anthony de Mello in “Awareness”

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“How many people do you know who are unaffected by praise or blame? – If you find me charming, it means that right now you are in a good mood, nothing more. It also means that I fit your shopping list. – If you ever let yourself feel good when people tell you that you’re O.K., then you are preparing yourself to feel bad when they tell you you’re not good. As long as you live to fill other people’s expectations, you’d better watch… whether you live up to every damned expectation of theirs. You’re not O.K. and you’re not not O.K., you’re you.”

11 Nov

Anthony de Mello in “Awareness”

“If you desire to change what is into what you think should be, you no longer understand”

11 Nov

Anthony de Mello in “Awareness”

“If you want anything too badly, you’re in big trouble. – You want to hope for something better than what you have right now, don’t you? Otherwise you wouldn’t be hoping. But then you forget that you have it all right now anyway, and you don’t know it. Why not concentrate on the now instead of hoping for better times in the future? Why not understand the now instead of forgetting it and hoping for the future? Isn’t the future just another trap?”

1 Nov

– Anthony de Mello in “Awareness”