Tag Archives: Understanding

“Community is created by understanding the blocks that we put in the way of community, by understanding the conflicts that arise from our fears and our desires.”

16 Nov

Anthony de Mello in “Awareness”

“The more you resist something, the greater power you give to it. – You always empower the demons you fight. – But if you flow with the enemy, you overcome the enemy. How does one cope with evil? Not by fighting it, but by understanding it. In understanding, it disappears.”

16 Nov

Anthony de Mello in “Awareness”

“The only way to change is by changing your understanding.”

16 Nov

Anthony de Mello in “Awareness”

“That is how you bring about change in yourself. Not by condemnation, not by calling yourself names, but by understanding what’s going on.”

16 Nov

Anthony de Mello in “Awareness”

“Don’t supress desire, understand it. – Don’t just renounce the objects of your desire, understand them; see they in their true light.”

16 Nov

Anthony de Mello in “Awareness”

“Negative feelings, every negative feeling is useful for awareness, for understanding. They give you the opportunity to feel it, to watch it from the outside. In the beginning, the depression will still be there, but you will have to cut the connection with it. Gradually you will undestandind the depression. As you understand it, it will occur less frequently, and will disappear altoghether.”

16 Nov

Anthony de Mello in “Awareness”

“Pleasant experiences make life delightful, but they don’t lead to growth in themselves. What leads to growth is painful experiences. Suffering points up an area in you where you have not yet grown, where you need to grow and be transformed by change.”

16 Nov

Anthony de Mello in “Awareness”

“The highest knowledge of God is to know God as unknowable.”

16 Nov

Anthony de Mello in “Awareness”

“Four steps to wisdom. The first thing you need to do is get in touch with negative feelings that you’re not even arware of. – The second step is to understand that the feeling is in you, not in reality. – The third step: Never identify with that feeling. It has nothing to do with the “I”. – The fourth step: How do you change things? How do you change yourselves?”

16 Nov

Anthony de Mello in “Awareness”

On expanding the third step; never identify with negative feelings:

  • P. 80 “If you want to say depression is in there, that’s fine; if you want to say gloominess is in there, that’s fine.  But not: I am gloomy.”
  • P. 80 “Your depression and your thrills have nothing to do with your happiness.  Those are the swings of the pendulum.”
  • P. 81 “You don’t even need to be in love.  Who told you you do? What you need is to be free.  What you need is to love.  That’s it; that’s your nature.  But what you’re really telling me is that you want to be desired.  You want to be applauded, to be attractive, to have all the little monkeys running after you. You’re wasting your life.  Wake up! You don’t need this.  You can be blissfully happy without it.”

The 4 Steps to Wisdom repeated again on P. 89: “Put this program into action, a thousand times:

  • (a) identify the negative feelings in you;
  • (b) understand that they are in you, not in the world, not in external reality;
  • (c) do not see them as an essential part of “I”; these things come and go;
  • (d) understand that when you change, everything changes.

“If you desire to change what is into what you think should be, you no longer understand”

11 Nov

Anthony de Mello in “Awareness”