Tag Archives: “I” vs “Me”

“If I were aware of what the snake was, I wouldn’t brush it off my arm; it would get brushed off through me. – That’s the change I am talking about. You don’t change yourself; it’s not me changing me. Change takes place through you, in you. – You see change take place in you, through you, in your awareness, it happens. You don’t do it.”

16 Nov

Anthony de Mello in “Awareness”

“Negative feelings, every negative feeling is useful for awareness, for understanding. They give you the opportunity to feel it, to watch it from the outside. In the beginning, the depression will still be there, but you will have to cut the connection with it. Gradually you will undestandind the depression. As you understand it, it will occur less frequently, and will disappear altoghether.”

16 Nov

Anthony de Mello in “Awareness”

“You’re not a dancer at all. You are being danced. – You thought you were at the center, now you experience yourselfas satellite. You thought you were the dancer; you now experience yourself as the dance.”

16 Nov

Anthony de Mello in “Awareness”

“Your depressions and your thrills have nothing to do with happiness. Those are the swings of the pendulum.”

16 Nov

Anthony de Mello in “Awareness”

P. 111 “Understand another illusion, too, that happiness is not the same as excitement, it’s not the same as thrills”

“Four steps to wisdom. The first thing you need to do is get in touch with negative feelings that you’re not even arware of. – The second step is to understand that the feeling is in you, not in reality. – The third step: Never identify with that feeling. It has nothing to do with the “I”. – The fourth step: How do you change things? How do you change yourselves?”

16 Nov

Anthony de Mello in “Awareness”

On expanding the third step; never identify with negative feelings:

  • P. 80 “If you want to say depression is in there, that’s fine; if you want to say gloominess is in there, that’s fine.  But not: I am gloomy.”
  • P. 80 “Your depression and your thrills have nothing to do with your happiness.  Those are the swings of the pendulum.”
  • P. 81 “You don’t even need to be in love.  Who told you you do? What you need is to be free.  What you need is to love.  That’s it; that’s your nature.  But what you’re really telling me is that you want to be desired.  You want to be applauded, to be attractive, to have all the little monkeys running after you. You’re wasting your life.  Wake up! You don’t need this.  You can be blissfully happy without it.”

The 4 Steps to Wisdom repeated again on P. 89: “Put this program into action, a thousand times:

  • (a) identify the negative feelings in you;
  • (b) understand that they are in you, not in the world, not in external reality;
  • (c) do not see them as an essential part of “I”; these things come and go;
  • (d) understand that when you change, everything changes.

“Before enlightenment, I used to be depressed: after enlightenment, I continue to be depressed.’ But there’s a difference: I don’t identify with it anymore. Do you know what a big difference that is?”

11 Nov

Anthony de Mello in “Awareness” about identifying “I” with “me” on P. 59.

“Get rid of your fear of failure, your tensions about succeeding, you will be yourself. Relaxed. You wouldn’t be driving with your brakes on. That’s what would happen.”

11 Nov

Anthony de Mello in “Awareness”

More in a fable on P.58 “There’s a lovely saying of Tranxu, a great Chinese sage, that I took the trouble to learn by heart. It goes: ‘When the archer shoots for no particular prize, he has all his skills; when he shoots to win a brass buckle, he is already nervous; when he shoots for a gold prize, he goes blind, sees two targets and is out of his mind. His skill has not changed, but the prize divides him. He cares! He things more of winning than of shooting, and the need to win drains him of power.”