Tag Archives: Suffering

“There’s only one evil in the world, fear. There’s only one good in the world, love. – Think of the last time you were angry and search for the fear behind it.”

16 Nov

Anthony de Mello in “Awareness”

“Before enlightenment, I used to be depressed: after enlightenment, I continue to be depressed.’ But there’s a difference: I don’t identify with it anymore. Do you know what a big difference that is?”

11 Nov

Anthony de Mello in “Awareness” about identifying “I” with “me” on P. 59.

“When your illusions drop, you’re in touch with reality at last, and believe me, you will never again be lonely. – Lonliness is cured by contact with reality.”

11 Nov

Anthony de Mello in “Awareness”

“What is the most important thing of all? It’s called self-observation. – No one can show you a technique. The moment you pick up a technique, you’re programmed again. – What’s [self-observation]? It means to watch everything in you and around you as far as possible and to watch it as if it were happening to someone else. – It means you do not personalize what is happening to you. It means you look at things as if you have no connection to them whatsoever.”

11 Nov

– Anthony de Mello in “Awareness” on Self-observation, P.35.

More on the process and understanding of self-observation, “I” vs “Me” and suffering below.

on P.46 “Be aware of your presence in this room. Say to yourself, “I am in this room.” It’s as if you were outside of yourself looking at yourself. Notice a slightly different feeling than if you were looking at things in the room. Later we’ll ask, “who is this person doing the looking?” I am looking at me. What’s an “I”? What’s “me”? … If you find yourself condemning yourself or approving yourself, don’t stop the condemnation and don’t stop the judgement or approval, just watch it. I’m condemning me; I’m disapproving of me; I’m approving of me. Just look at it, period. Don’t try to change it… Just observe what is going on.”

on P. 47 “Notice you have “I” observing “me.” This is an interesting phenomenon that has never ceased to cause wonder to philosophers, mystics, scientists, psychologists, that the “I” can observe “me”… The great mystics of the East are really referring to that “I”, not to the “me”. As a matter of fact, some of these mystics tell us that we begin first with things, with an awareness of things; then we move on to an awareness of thoughts (that’s the me); and finally we get to an awareness of the thinker. Things, thoughts, thinker. What we’re really searching for is the thinker. Can the thinker know himself? Can I know what “I” is? Some of these mystics reply, “Can the knife cut itself? Can the tooth bite itself?…Can the “I” know itself?”

P.47 “Am I my thoughts, the thoughts that I am thinking? No. Thoughts come and go; I am not my thoughts. Am I my body? They tell us that millions of cells in our body are change or are renewed every minute, so that by the end of seven years we don’t have a single loving cell in our body that was there seven years before. Cells come and go. Cells arise and die. But “I” seems to persist. So am “I” my body? Evidently not!”

P.48 “Is my name an essential part of me, of the “I”? Is my religion an essential part of the “I”?

P.49 – 50 “What constantly changes is “me”. Does “I” ever change? Does the observer ever change?… So when you step out of yourself and observe “me”, you no longer identify with “me”. Suffering exists in “me,” so when you identify “I” with “me,” suffering begins.”

P. 51 “Anytime you have a negative feeling towards anyone, you’re living in an illusion. There’s something seriously wrong with you. You are not seeing reality. Something inside of you has to change… The one who has to change is you.”

“Anytime you have a negative feeling toward anyone, you’re living in an illusion. There’s something seriously wrong with you. – Something has to change. – The world is alright. The one who has to change is you.”

11 Nov

Anthony de Mello in “Awareness”

“Suffering exists in “me”, so when you identify “I” with “me,” suffering begins.”

11 Nov

Anthony de Mello in “Awareness”

Buddhism

15 Jun

Personal Intro

As I researched Buddhism, I found that I was much more attracted to the philosophical applications than the religious ones (not very surprising if you know me). My attraction towards Buddhism started around 2 – 3 years ago, and has grown increasingly.  Mostly, I have been attracted to the encouragement within Buddhism to question teachings, take nothing on blind faith, and to realize and experience truth for oneself. Meditation has also started to play a significant role in my life, and most recently, my 10 day silent Vipassana mediation (which is Buddhist in its origin), further increased my curiosity in Buddhism through its teachings and discourses.

1) Craving and Desire: My Bad Habit

During my 10-day Vipassana, I was introduced to the “truth” that “clinging to” or “craving of” positive sensations causes suffering (one of Buddhism’s Four Noble Truths).  I had somewhere along the way already gained the understanding that “hate and aversion” cause suffering, and although I had connected the dots of how my high expectations often led to disappointment (and occasional pouting), I had never realized the full extent and frequency of my internal craving habit. This pattern of romanticizing a future life-event, and craving its imagined outcome was addictive and captivating; however, immense disappointment frequently followed when life unfolded with its own set of plans.

Note: I use “Craving”, “Desire”, “Clinging” and “Attachment” interchangeably.  I also do the same with “Aversion” and “Hate”

2) No Reincarnation? No Kidding.

The desire to “know what I am talking about” is a central drive to my existential research.  I was delighted, then, to discover my false perceptions about Buddhism and reincarnation.  Despite what I thought, Buddhist believe in rebirth, not reincarnation.  The very important difference here, is that Buddhists believe in the “no-self”, which means there is no unique, individual soul or essence that carries over from one lifetime to the next.  Do I believe in rebirth? Reincarnation? Time between lifetimes? The self-soul? The no-self?

3) The No-self

This concept in Buddhism is challenging to understand, yet an essential understanding for practitioners.  I am open to assistance in understanding”what” is actually reborn if there is “no self.”  One school of Buddhism, Theravada considers “no-self” to mean that an individual’s ego or personality is a delusion. In another, “emptiness’ is applied, meaning all phenomena are void of intrinsic identity and take identity only in relation to other phenomena.[3]

4) Enlightenment, Liberation, Nirvana, Awakening

The clarification of terms here was really important to me, because “enlightenment”, “nirvana”, and “liberation” are so often interchanged.  Within all of that there is some “awakening”.  The distinction amongst them all still remains a bit unclear.

5) Question/Theory?: Is it me, or is 30-35 a ridiculously important time for profound transformations?

6) Applied Buddhism

Currently, I look forward to becoming aware of my “craving” when it happens, and practicing an “equanimous” approach towards it.  I also look forward to integrating compassion meditation into my daily meditation routine.

Check out my Buddhism Conceptual Organization Chart

Buddhism Org Chart


 BUDDHISM


Buddhism is defined as a non-theist religion and at times considered a philosophy. It is recognized as one of the fastest growing religions in the world. [1]

TEACHINGS
The teachings of Buddhism can be summed into:

  1. lead a moral life
  2. be mindful and aware of thoughts and actions
  3. develop wisdom and understanding.{2]

FOUR NOBLE TRUTHS
There are Four Noble Truths which are regarded as central to the teachings of Buddhism. The four truths are:

  1. Suffering (dukkha) is always a part of life.
  2. Suffering is caused by the 3 “poisons” or “fires”: 1) Aversion to pain and death.  2) Craving/desire and the anxiety of and holding onto things, and 3) the root of the first two, ignorance.
  3. The end of suffering is possible.
  4. The path to ending all suffering is achieved through a set of eight interconnected factors or conditions.

THE PATH TO END SUFFERING
Buddhists believe there are eight significant dimensions of one’s behavior that operate in dependence on one another and define a complete path, or way of living.  In summary, the Noble 8-fold Path is being moral (through what we say, do and our livelihood), focusing the mind on being fully aware of our thoughts and actions (this is where meditation comes into play), and developing wisdom by understanding the Four Noble Truths and by developing compassion for others.

eightfold-path grid

THREE MARKS OF EXISTENCE
Three Marks of Existence are impermanence, suffering, and not-self.

THE FOUR IMMEASURABLES
The “Four Immeasurable Minds” in Buddhism are without egotism, and are love, compassion, joy, and equanimity.

THE 5 PRECEPTS
The moral code within Buddhism is the precepts, of which the main five are: not to take the life of anything living, not to take anything not freely given, to abstain from sexual misconduct and sensual overindulgence, to refrain from untrue speech, and to avoid intoxication, that is, losing mindfulness.

With regards to the “not taking the life of anything living”, I was excited to learn that vegetarianism is not required in all Buddhist practices.

THE THREE JEWELS of which Buddhist take refuge in are:

  1. The Buddha
  2. The Dharma – Law of nature/reality
  3. The Sangha – monk community or community of those in Buddhism

WHERE & SCHOOLS
Buddhism

Two major branches of Buddhism are generally recognized: Theravada and Mahayana.

REBIRTH, NOT REINCARNATION
According to Buddhism there is ultimately “no-self” is no such thing as a self independent from the rest of the universe; therefor, Buddhism rejects the concepts of a permanent self or an unchanging, eternal soul, as it is called in Hinduism and Christianity.  In Buddhism, Rebirth refers to a process whereby beings go through a succession of lifetimes as one of *5 (Theravadins) or 6 (other schools) possible forms of sentient life (1. hellish beings, 2. ghosts, 3. animals, 4. humans, 5. Gods and angels, *6. Asuras: lowly gods and demons, ). Each reincarnation is considered to happen back to back, and is determined by Karma.

In Tibetan Buddhism, there is an intermediate state, a “Bardo” between one life and the next.

ENLIGHTENMENT, NIRVANA & LIBERATION
It varies depending on the school of buddhism, but originally, enlightenment (Bodhi) and achieving nirvana meant the same thing.  Somewhere down the line, the Mahayana school applied nirvana to the elimination of aversion and craving, and enlightenment as the further elimination of delusions and ignorance.   I recall the Vipassana teacher saying that for householders (non-monk Buddhists), liberation is possible, but not enlightenment, but again, the distinction amongst these terms is unclear.

BUDDHA
Buddhism teachings started with Siddhartha Gautama, who is commonly known as the Buddha.  Buddha means “the awakened one” and refers to all enlightened beings, past, present and future.

At the age of 35, Guatama Buddha famously sat in meditation under a sacred fig tree — known as the Bodhi tree — in the town of Bodh Gaya, India, and vowed not to rise before achieving enlightenment. After many days, he arose as a fully enlightened being

References

[1] “Buddhism” – Wikipedia (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Buddhism)

[2] “Basic Buddhism Guide” – BuddhaNet (http://www.buddhanet.net/e-learning/5minbud.htm)

[3]”Buddhism Basic Beliefs” – About.com (http://buddhism.about.com/od/basicbuddhistteachings/a/basicshub.htm)